When life throws you a curveball and you feel completely helpless, its important to not dwell on those things you can't control. Rather, focus on the things you can control. As logical as this sounds, its far too easy to say 'Woe is me' instead of 'Go me!' (ok - cheezy, I know...but I'm trying to make a point here)
I've noticed people who go through life events they clearly have no control over (sudden job loss, relationship meltdown), tend to do one of two things: They either hold onto the grief and anguish until it consumes them, or they assert a level of control over some other area of their life. Silly as it sounds, having control in at least one area of your life makes it that much easier to deal with those things you don't have control over. My guess here is that by controlling some aspect of your life, you are able to avoid feeling completely powerless.
Interestingly, control can come in many forms. For example - control can be simply completing the laundry. You completed the laundry, ironed everything, and put it all away. Completion!
Control can also take the form of moderating your diet. Its not like anyone is holding a gun to your head telling you to eat that second piece of cake. You control how many calories you consume, as well as how hard you work at the gym to burn it all off.
For me, that is my favorite way of dealing with the things in my life over which I have zero control - I hit the gym. With a vengeance. While this is a great and healthy way to deal with an otherwise potentially unhealthy situation, the problem with this approach is that I'm only in really good shape when I'm totally stressed out. When life swings back into balance and all is right with the world, my gym routine falls off the map and back comes all that fat I worked so hard to ditch.
Sometimes, ya can't win for trying =p
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